Men dream of ideally mastering sexual techniques, and women want to have a perfect body. But problems in bed usually arise for other reasons.
Most men come to therapy to improve their sexual skills, Watson says. But the problem, as a rule, is not connected with their skill. The error lies in one or more of the following points.
1. The lack of female desire is misinterpreted.
Men are immediately informed about the attractiveness of a woman by their body. Just the sight of an unfamiliar beauty or their own partner can cause them to have a partial erection. Women are different. Their arousal is associated with imagination and fantasy, so they need more time to tune in to sex.
So do not take the lack of instant desire from a partner to heart. It is better to stretch the process of seduction a little.
2. Frustrated by her slow arousal
This error is closely related to the previous one. Women slowly tune in to sex and are slowly aroused. It’s a matter of physiology, nothing more. But if the partner feels that the man is disappointed with her speed abilities, her desire intensifies even more slowly. Or disappears altogether.
Solution: Relax, take your time and enjoy every moment.
3. Move to the genitals too quickly
Many men prefer genital caresses to everyone else and think that women share their sympathy. Error. The physical arousal of a woman is not yet a signal of a rapid transition to the main thing. On the contrary, premature genital stimulation can kill desire.
Solution: it is better to wait a little longer, continuing to caress the partner’s entire body.
4. Concentrate on their erection
Men who care too much about their erections can ruin the feeling of intimacy during sex.
If they are focused on delaying ejaculation, a woman may feel isolated, forgotten. To calm her down, Watson advises men to stay in touch, to tell her about their desire.
If the erection, on the contrary, weakens, it is not bad to use this time for an additional round of caresses.
In the case of rapid ejaculation, you can tell your partner that the reason is in her incredible sexuality. And resort to oral sex. It is no worse than ordinary sexual intercourse.
5. Only stimulate the vagina
The head of the clitoris is about the same as the head of the penis. Needless to say, vaginal stimulation alone is not very effective? Yes, of course, there are exceptions. But still, more often it is the clitoris that is the center of a woman’s sexual pleasure.
Women who have problems in sex often associate them with the lack of a perfect body or fantastic skills, like porn stars . According to Laurie Watson, all this has little to do with reality. Most likely, the reason is related to the following errors.… Read the rest